Tell him that you miss him. That you wish he was there with you. That you just got out of the shower and don’t feel like getting dressed yet or that you’re all alone in bed and feel lonely.

Follow it up by sending him a sexy picture. Something you bet will make him hard, but you wouldn’t be afraid to post on Instagram. Some cleavage. Some leg. Nothing too intense. Just enough to make him want more.

Hint at the fact that you want him. Mention that you need a massage. That you’re wearing new underwear. That he hasn’t left your mind all evening. Then let him do the rest. Let him turn the conversation sexual, so it seems like it was his idea.

Wait for his questions about what you would be doing if you two were together. About what exactly makes you miss him as much as you do.

Feel free to tell him the truth. Tell him about the fantasies you have of him when it’s late at night and you’re touching yourself under the covers. Tell him about that kiss you keep replaying in your head again and again because it gives you butterflies every time.

Drown him in dirty compliments. Tell him how good his lips feel against your hips. How his eyes look sexy as fuck when he’s turned on. How just the sound of his voice makes you wet.

Then you can create a scenario, explain what you would do if you were in the same room together.

Explain how you would push him onto the bed and straddle him, pressing your lips against his while you move against his crotch. Talk about how you would let your hands wander across his cheeks, down his chest, toward his jeans.

And tell him what you want him to do. Tell him that you want his hands to tug on your hair. Pin down your wrists. Squeeze your ass. Curl around your neck.

Make the scene as detailed as possible. As sexual as possible.

Just make sure that you tease him. That you don’t give him what he wants too soon.

Talk about how you would grind against his cock, but not unzip his jeans yet. Or how you would lift your dress above your head, but keep your bra and underwear on. Or how you would get down on your knees and stare up at him while getting ready to suck him, but only kiss around his thighs for now.

Make him suffer. Make him want more.

And when you feel like he’s ready to beg for your body, you can finish the scene. Talk about licking around his head and sucking on his balls while your hands move up and down his shaft. Or about slipping him inside of you and riding him while his fingers dig into your waist, while his breath hits your chest, while his tongue circles your tits.

Talk about how you want his cum slipping down your throat or how you want to feel him orgasm while he’s inside you. How you know it will make you orgasm too because he looks so fucking sexy when he’s underneath you.

And don’t forget to let him know how wet you are. Let him know you’re touching yourself, too. Let him know you want him to cum from thinking about you.

And then it will happen.

Holly Riordan is the author of Lifeless Souls, available here.

I was four months shy of turning 27. I was also the perpetually single, hopeless cynic, never-been-kissed, devil-may-care virgin woman who had neither any tangible experience in relationships nor in the bedchambers of intimacy and romance.

I’ve been in love before; a couple of times with both guys breaking my heart in ways different from the other but more or less equal in pain. It was at this point that I thought that maybe being single is what I was destined for; that somehow, none of the millions of men residing on this planet is ever meant to cross paths with me and eventually stay. Naturally, my friends started panicking because I was so convinced that I will live out the rest of my days as my friends’ kids’ spinster aunt.

Alas, a friend took it upon herself to create my first ever social dating site account. I swore I’d never create one because I knew that it would come back to bite me in the ass, that all I would find there are sex-crazed lunatics and even fraudsters. I know; I judged them all before I even met one.

But still, I tried wading into uncharted waters. After all, I promised myself that I would do things that scare the living wits out of me this year, and talking with a complete stranger a thousand miles away certainly makes the cut.

It was fun and exciting. It was also enlightening and I treated it as a research experiment, as if the procedures are clear-cut and the results are measurable. I learned about different cultures from the men I talked with. I learned certain words from various languages. I learned how they want their coffee, their ideal woman, their dreams (or lack thereof), and even their pasts. I thoroughly enjoyed the amount of knowledge and information, both factual and personal, that I was provided with during my conversations with these men. I enjoyed them because I remained emotionally unattached. And from these conversations, I came up with one conclusion: Most of the men I talked with, at some point, became so libidinous beyond control that they had to send me a “dick pic” without my consent and ask for a lewd picture of me in exchange. In less than four months, I was able to amass a considerable number of portraits of the male genitalia of all shapes, sizes, and colors! At first, I was adamant to believe that men had such an incredible sexual drive. Now, I am exhaustively and irrevocably convinced. Of course, I refused sending them a sensual, hard-on-stimulating picture. I told them that I’m not that kind of girl and I would never do that.

Then I met George. I was about to sleep one Saturday night when he chatted me up. Since I was tired he let me head for bed and nicely asked if we could resume talking when I woke up. I said yes. When I woke up at around noon the following day I checked his profile. He was wearing a Superman shirt and glasses in his photo. He was attractive, but not the kind of guy I’m usually into. But I chatted him up anyway and we clicked almost instantly. We were both into sci-fi. We both liked pets, with him having a cute brown puppy and me an orange tabby cat. We both played computer and video games. We both love having pancakes for breakfast. And we are also both rooting for the White Walkers to win (yeah, sue us). We had quite a lot of interests in common.

But there were also a hefty number of dissimilarities. Because we lived 6,000 miles apart with the Pacific Ocean in the middle, it is only natural that we had cultural differences and variances in viewpoints. He likes the cold, whereas I love the sun. I liked my burgers with pickles, but he doesn’t care for them. But the most startling is how he loves sweets too much and I, on the other hand, cannot finish half a bar of milk chocolate. We even got into a tiff when he finished an entire pack and told me it was his dinner. But he is at least accepting my pleas for him to cut back so he could be healthy. Or so I was led to believe.

Then one day while we were texting, he started sending raunchy text messages. Since I was pretty comfortable already with him at the time, I quipped right back, thinking it wouldn’t go beyond sexual overtones. However, before I could process everything, I was texting him how much I love feeling his palms on my breasts as he plunges his entire length into the tight wetness in between my legs. He told me how he would kiss me hard and long while holding my ass in place with each thrust. He told me how I made him so hard and wanting every morning when he wakes up and how he strokes himself thinking of me. He said he couldn’t concentrate at work after I texted him one morning how much I want to be under his office desk sucking him off. He returned the favor by describing how he’d lap up my juices while I’m in my tight office skirt. I was squirming the entire morning. We told each other of our fantasies: how my hands are roaming wild while we’re watching a television show on the couch, how I want him to take me while we’re stuck on the elevator and how he’d want me to straddle him while we’re alone on the last train home, among other unspeakable things. These exchanges happened every day for weeks.

We also had purely chaste conversations. We’d talk about the challenges at work, views on certain issues, and even ask the other for meal suggestions. Then one day, it all changed. It was right after he was considering that he’d come visit me if not for the cost and the crazy timing. I told him that there is no hurry and even joked that maybe we can meet in between—like in Hawaii or on a romantic submarine cruise in the Pacific. I thought it was all good.

But there was no good morning the following day. He suddenly no longer called me darling. His morning calls on his way to work ceased. I had to be the first one to message to hear anything from him. And then he started logging into the dating site again. I started asking myself why all these things, these changes are affecting me. I think that by this time it is safe to say that I had become quite attached to the man. For some reason, it felt like he was about to ghost me and it hurt unlike when the previous random internet guys did.

I decided to stop being always the first one to message just to see if he’d message me first. So far, I have not heard from him in a month. So I guess I have my answer. I kept asking myself how anyone you’ve been talking to for a couple of months almost nonstop every day could drop all communication. I kept asking myself how easy it is for an individual to forget. My friends told me that I was silly for being attached to a guy I’ve never physically met. But they were not the ones who heard him moaning my name, almost feeling his heat on my skin, sensing the spilling of his imaginary seed and the innermost thoughts that came along with it.

I was right the first time. Online dating bit me in the ass, quite harder than I can handle. I now give the world the license to call me stupid because I strongly feel that I am the Queen of Stupid for falling for a guy I knew firsthand would never fall right back.

1. Aquarius

Every Aquarius has what it takes to write erotica. Since they are artists at heart, they are able to come up with creative scenarios and write detailed scenes. They won’t text you something simple like, “I’m horny.” They will weave an entire story meant to turn you on. They will make you feel like you’re really in bed with them.

2. Aries

Aries never hold back, so they will tell you exactly what they want to do to you — and what they want you to do to them. They are unashamed of their sexuality and unafraid of sounding crude, which means that you are going to see the filthiest things written across your screen. Things you’ll have to erase so no one else sees.

3. Capricorn

Capricorns pay close attention to the small group of people who actually matter to them. That means that instead of saying what they think is sexy, they will say what you think is sexy. They will make comments they know will turn you on. It’s like they are inside of your head.

4. Virgo

Virgos are detail oriented, which means that they are going to notice the little things. The way your lips taste. The way your skin feels. The way your perfume/cologne smells. When it’s time to sext, hearing those personalized details will make you feel even more attractive.

5. Taurus

They have perfect memories, which is why they will bring up details from the last time you two had sex. They will compliment you on how hot you looked when you glanced up at them while going down on them. They will remind you how much they love the sound of your soft moans. They will make you feel sexy AF.

6. Pisces

They are fast thinkers — and fast texters. That means that the flow of conversation won’t be ruined by having to wait an hour for their response. You will be able to touch yourself while sexting them, because they won’t let you down. They’ll always have a sexy response ready.

7. Gemini

They keep things simple without going into much detail, but it works for them. They will say things like, “I want you on top of me” or “I’m dripping wet right now” and it will do the trick. They stick to the basics.

8. Libra

Libras can be shy and timid. They probably won’t be the one to initiate an inappropriate conversation. However, if you lead them toward one and they are comfortable with you, they will surprise you with how raunchy they can be. Their minds are dirtier than you think.

9. Sagittarius

Sometimes they get too into sexting and can get carried away. They might use a word you’re uncomfortable with or mention a sex act that you have no interest in performing. Once they’re in the mood, they can take things a little too far. But it’s only because they are so turned on by you.

10. Leo

Leos are visual creatures, which is why sexting isn’t really their thing — unless you consider sending nudes a part of sexting, in which case, they are professionals. They love showing off their body. They love giving other people a reason to shower them with compliments.

11. Cancer

They are the kind of people who will only ask questions instead of contributing to the conversation. And then what? What happens next? They will let you carry the conversation because they like the idea of sexting, but they feel kind of silly doing it themselves.

12. Scorpio

Honestly, Scorpios would rather have sex than talk about sex. If you try to sext them, then they will probably cut to the chase and invite you over to their place. They don’t see why they should fantasize about you in their head when they could have the real thing in the flesh. 

1.

Your fingers would feel so good against my clit. 

2.

I want to feel your body pressed up against mine.

3.

I miss the taste of your lips. 

4.

You have no idea how badly I want you in my mouth. 

5.

I get so wet, just thinking about you.

6.

I want your hands wrapped around my neck. 

7.

You’re the sexiest person I’ve ever had in my bed. 

8.

Every time I see you, I want to shove you against the wall. 

9.

You make me so fucking horny. 

10.

I can’t stop thinking what it would be like to fuck you.

11.

I want your cum to fill my mouth tonight. 

12.

Want to see me on my knees? 

13.

I want your tongue to play with my clit. 

14.

I bet your lips would feel amazing against my tits. 

15.

I’m so turned on right now. 

16.

I want to pin your arms down while I fuck you. 

17.

Picture me on my knees, staring up at you with your cock between my lips.

18.

I’m touching myself, but I’m imagining you. 

19.

I want to feel your cock hard against my ass.

20.

I’m going to make you moan so loud you’ll have to bite down on a pillow to keep quiet. 

21.

I masturbated to your pictures last night. 

22.

You would look sexy as fuck underneath me. 

23.

I really wish we were having sex right now.

24.

I keep fantasizing about you going down on me. 

25.

I want you inside of me. 

26.

I’m going to sleep naked tonight.

27.

Want some pictures of me? 

28.

As soon as I see you, I’m going to press my lips against your neck. 

29.

Tell me how hard you are.  

30.

I’m going to dig my nails so deep into your back that you bleed. 

31.

I feel like doing it doggy style tonight. 

32.

Do you want me to wear my lace lingerie or my leather? 

33.

I want to be the one to make you cum. 

34.

I hope you’re picturing me naked right now. 

35.

I don’t know how I’ve been able to hold back from ripping your clothes off.

36.

I want to hear you moan my name. 

37.

I can’t wait for you to touch me. Everywhere. 

38.

Do you have any idea how sexy your eyes are? 

39.

FYI: I’m not wearing a bra.

40.

I don’t know how much longer I can wait to fuck you.

41.

I want to feel you orgasm inside of me.

42.

Tie me to your bed and do whatever the hell you want to me. 

43.

Every time you touch me, I get wet. 

44.

I keep thinking about you completely naked. 

45.

You would love the underwear I have on. It’s crotchless. 

46.

I’m going to make you cum so hard the next time I get you in bed. 

47.

You are the biggest turn on.

48.

I want you on top of me.

49.

I bet your cum would taste delicious. 

50.

I want to feel your hands in my hair. I want to feel your breath against my chest. I want to feel your dick between my legs. I want to feel you slide inside of me and scream my name. 

You don’t have to send your boyfriend nudes to get him in the mood. All it takes is a text worded in just the right way.

Warning: Only send these texts if you’re ready for clothing to come off.

In a world where society tells us that we as women have to feel guilty for having or wanting sex, we need to start initiating the sex we want to have. We have the pleasure of existing in a world where hooking up can occur rather quickly through the simple use of your phone so why not use it to our advantage.

It’s time we start to give ourselves what we want and need.

There is simply nothing wrong with two consenting adults in hooking up safely. Sometimes, you might not want to be in a relationship and only want to hook up with someone and that is absolutely okay.

I know hooking up or asking a guy to hook up can seem daunting and debilitating. The idea of being rejected seems slightly embarrassing and rather scary.

Please remember that being rejected by a text is not as bad as being rejected in person. Honestly, I would rather put myself out there in the world than let a man dictate when I am going to have sex.

The cards are in your hands, ladies!

Put yourself out there and send that risky text.

I find that one should simply follow the development of the relationship that is at hand. If it’s been casual then keep it casual. You can keep your texting short and sweet and simple with a to-the-point hookup text. If you have a friendly dynamic where hookups are simple than a to-the-point text will certainly do.

If you two are new to hooking up, I’d suggest a text which is more flirtatious than simply, leaving it up to him to either flirt back or reject you. Trust me, I have had my fair share of hookup texts that have been rejected and it isn’t that bad.

Sometimes rejection happens and you get ghosted; sometimes it leads to months of mind-blowing sex.

That is the beauty of a hookup relationship, it can be as easy as the two parties want it to be.

I also find it interesting if one uses some sort of personalized experience that the two of you shared the last time you were together to talk about hooking up over text again. If you want someone to join you to watch a movie or to help you put together a piece of furniture, allow a simple text to do the work for you with a little flirtation in the messages. Sure you might need some help with the actual furniture, but it’s all about how you send the messages. Thankfully, emojis can sometimes do more of the talking for you as well.

Throughout my time of being single, I have found that one needs to use whatever route feels most comfortable when initiating said hookup.

A hookup needs to be casual, consensual and most of all-fun for both parties.

If at any time something doesn’t feel right, speak up and let your partner know. Even if after the fact you feel like something wasn’t right, feel free to tell that person that what they did didn’t or did feel good. Alternatively, if someone did something well during a hookup, positive encouragement is always helpful and always appreciated and can always be useful in sending that next risky hookup text.

Aries

[2:00 am] heyyyyyyyyyy

Taurus

You’re right.

Gemini

I dig all of your personalities.

Cancer

We can cuddle after.

Leo

i’ll ghost you and then watch your instagram story until we both eventually die.

Virgo

You can organize my finances in an excel spreadsheet. Yes, I would love for it to be color-coded.

Libra

everything sucks.

Scorpio

Scorpios don’t sext, they get sexted.

Sagittarius

wanna get drunk on wine coolers and insult each other?

Capricorn

i’ll let you make my 5-year plan.

Aquarius

you can be my therapist. ;)

Pisces

wanna talk about ur feelings?

Maybe if all you guys out there weren’t huffing cock snot and got your head out of your asses and didn’t treat girls horribly we wouldn’t be bitches.

You know how you guys think it’s cute to randomly send us dick pics? Well guess what? IT IS NOT! If a girl wants you to send her a dick pic she will ask for it. Sending us random dick pictures isn’t turning us women on at all! In fact, it just pisses us off by how stupid you can actually be!

Oh and don’t get me started on all the dumb pick up lines you guys try to use on us. Some of us don’t want any of your dick pics or pick up lines, we just want a guy who can start a conversation without asking us if we want to see his huge thick dick or would it be cool if I stuck a dildo up your ass and then jerked off to you? Like no!! We want a guy who can be normal during the first hour of the conversation that we have with you. Plus when we tell you to fuck off after you just got done asking us if we could fuck when we don’t even know you, it does not make us a bitch! It means we are not whores and we are sick of getting dumbasses like you sliding into our dms.

Also we don’t always want a guy who wants to have sex within the first 5 minutes of talking, even though we already know that’s what you want. That’s not always what we want. It’s not really hard not to be a creep! When all you guys do is send girls pick up lines and dick pictures right away you are known as a weirdo or a creep to us!

Just be normal, that’s all we are asking!!!

1. Do not expect her to give a lengthy paragraph when you keep replying with one-word answers. Mhm, then what, and winking faces are going to kill the conversation. You also have to play a part. You have to contribute as much as she does.

2. If you two are in the middle of sexting, she wants to hear about how attractive you find her. She wants to know you’ve been daydreaming about her naked body. You don’t have to hold yourself back. Hearing about how turned on you are will turn her on.

3. Just because you’re sexting, it doesn’t mean every sentence has to be filled with expletives. You can be dirty — but you can also toss in cute compliments about her eyes. You don’t have to stick to drooling over her chest and ass.

4. Sometimes, the little kinks she brings up while sexting are hints. She is testing the waters to see how you feel about certain sex acts. It’s her sneaky way of bringing up a topic (like bondage or anal) in the hopes you will initiate it in real life.

5. Of course, sometimes, it goes the other way. She might sext you about a certain scenario because she knows it will turn you on to fantasize about it, even though she would never agree to it in real life.

6. Even though you’re probably not thinking straight while sexting her, reread your messages before sending. Typos are a turn-off. You should also make sure you avoid using shorthand. Type out your words. You’re an adult with an education. Act like it.

7. What turns you on is probably not the same as what turns her on. Even though your first instinct might be to mention how badly you want to slip inside her, you might want to start by mentioning how you want to rub her clit and kiss her neck. Just like actual sex, sexting is not supposed to be centered around your pleasure. It’s supposed to be about the both of you.

8. She doesn’t want you to always save sexting for when you are home alone and ready to masturbate. She wants you to use it as a form of foreplay on the days you are planning on seeing her. Send her risky texts throughout the morning to put her in the mood. You can even send them in the evening when you are sitting on opposite ends of a restaurant table.

9. Do not ask her for nudes. She already knows you want to see her naked. If she wants to send photos, she will send them on her own. Don’t make her uncomfortable by begging. Getting pushy will only push her away.

10. Even though you are sexting, it does not mean she is sitting at home, touching herself. She might be snacking on chips, watching her favorite show with a group of friends. Just because she tells you she is wearing a towel and lounging in her empty bedroom does not mean it’s actually the case. 

You are up and scrolling through your newsfeed. You can’t go to sleep because all you are thinking about is how bad you want him inside you.

He could be your boyfriend, friend with benefits or just someone you want to spend the night with. Some simple sexts can trigger his mind and will make him crave you like crazy. By using the right words, you can spice up his dirty imagination and make him want you NOW.

Use some of these sexts to make him become restless just thinking about you. I guarantee that he will be crawling out of his bed to come to yours.

Make him come to you (pun intended) by simply using your fingertips.

1. I am lying naked in my bed thinking about you while I play with myself.

2. I just woke up and had a naughty dream, it felt so real I could almost feel you. You should come over so we can make my dream a reality.

3. I am finding it so difficult to sleep. My mind is just on the really crazy things I would do to you if you were here.

4. If you were here right now, we would definitely not get any sleep at all.

5. I just had the dirtiest thought about you. Too dirty to text—come on over and I can just show you.

6. Tonight, you’re cordially invited to be a special guest in between my legs.

7. I’ve got a very special hug waiting for you… it doesn’t involve my arms, or my hands…I wanna give your penis a tight hug with my vagina.

8. There’s something very wet and slippery downstairs, would you mind coming over to take a look at it?

9. I have my hand down my underwear right now, and just the thought of you touching me has me so wet.

10. Guess what I am thinking right now? Here’s a hint: It involves my mouth and you naked!

11. Remember the last time you came in my mouth? Me neither. Let’s make it happen tonight.

12. I want you so badly… Can you cum over right away?

13. I wish you could sleep with me tonight to keep me warm because I have nothing on.

14. I wanna go on a wild ride, you don’t even have to go far. Just come over and I can ride you all night long.

15. I couldn’t make it to the gym today, come over so you can help me get a late night cardio session in!

16. I am reading a magazine and it has some exciting naughty positions. If you were here we could do them all tonight.

17. I’m dying to find out if you are as good in real life as you are in my fantasies.

18. I just bought new lingerie, if you come over I can model it for you.

19.  I am currently reading an erotica book, let’s act out its scenes tonight.

20. Congrats! You have won a coupon for doing ANYTHING with me. It expires tonight though.

21. You. Me. Naked. My bed. Tonight.

22. Can’t sleep because every time I close my eyes, I see you naked. Wish you were here tonight so I could see you naked with my eyes open.

23. I’m up just thinking how I can’t wait to run my hands all over your strong body.

24. What are you wearing right now? (Wait for his response.) Oh! Your clothes would look so much better on the floor next to mine.

25. You should come over and we can pretend we are auditioning for a porn.

26. I’m all alone in bed tonight and I feel like something is missing… It’s you in between my legs.

27. I am imagining your hands on my body… your mouth on my body… and finally, your rock hard cock inside.

28. I have a few dirty games in mind but I need another player, can you come over and play with me?

29. I’m so wet touching myself, wishing I had your hand down there instead of mine.

30. I wanna blow your mind by simply using my mouth.

I hope some of these sexts can help you score and get him in your bed. Don’t be afraid to click the send button. Be spontaneous, experiment, and enjoy.

Happy sexting!

1. Aquarius

Every Aquarius has what it takes to write erotica. Since they are artists at heart, they are able to come up with creative scenarios and write detailed scenes. They won’t text you something simple like, “I’m horny.” They will weave an entire story meant to turn you on. They will make you feel like you’re really in bed with them.

2. Aries

Aries never hold back, so they will tell you exactly what they want to do to you — and what they want you to do to them. They are unashamed of their sexuality and unafraid of sounding crude, which means that you are going to see the filthiest things written across your screen. Things you’ll have to erase so no one else sees.

3. Capricorn

Capricorns pay close attention to the small group of people who actually matter to them. That means that instead of saying what they think is sexy, they will say what you think is sexy. They will make comments they know will turn you on. It’s like they are inside of your head.

4. Virgo

Virgos are detail oriented, which means that they are going to notice the little things. The way your lips taste. The way your skin feels. The way your perfume/cologne smells. When it’s time to sext, hearing those personalized details will make you feel even more attractive.

5. Taurus

They have perfect memories, which is why they will bring up details from the last time you two had sex. They will compliment you on how hot you looked when you glanced up at them while going down on them. They will remind you how much they love the sound of your soft moans. They will make you feel sexy AF.

6. Pisces

They are fast thinkers — and fast texters. That means that the flow of conversation won’t be ruined by having to wait an hour for their response. You will be able to touch yourself while sexting them, because they won’t let you down. They’ll always have a sexy response ready.

7. Gemini

They keep things simple without going into much detail, but it works for them. They will say things like, “I want you on top of me” or “I’m dripping wet right now” and it will do the trick. They stick to the basics.

8. Libra

Libras can be shy and timid. They probably won’t be the one to initiate an inappropriate conversation. However, if you lead them toward one and they are comfortable with you, they will surprise you with how raunchy they can be. Their minds are dirtier than you think.

9. Sagittarius

Sometimes they get too into sexting and can get carried away. They might use a word you’re uncomfortable with or mention a sex act that you have no interest in performing. Once they’re in the mood, they can take things a little too far. But it’s only because they are so turned on by you.

10. Leo

Leos are visual creatures, which is why sexting isn’t really their thing — unless you consider sending nudes a part of sexting, in which case, they are professionals. They love showing off their body. They love giving other people a reason to shower them with compliments.

11. Cancer

They are the kind of people who will only ask questions instead of contributing to the conversation. And then what? What happens next? They will let you carry the conversation because they like the idea of sexting, but they feel kind of silly doing it themselves.

12. Scorpio

Honestly, Scorpios would rather have sex than talk about sex. If you try to sext them, then they will probably cut to the chase and invite you over to their place. They don’t see why they should fantasize about you in their head when they could have the real thing in the flesh. 

1.

Your fingers would feel so good against my clit. 

2.

I want to feel your body pressed up against mine.

3.

I miss the taste of your lips. 

4.

You have no idea how badly I want you in my mouth. 

5.

I get so wet, just thinking about you.

6.

I want your hands wrapped around my neck. 

7.

You’re the sexiest person I’ve ever had in my bed. 

8.

Every time I see you, I want to shove you against the wall. 

9.

You make me so fucking horny. 

10.

I can’t stop thinking what it would be like to fuck you.

11.

I want your cum to fill my mouth tonight. 

12.

Want to see me on my knees? 

13.

I want your tongue to play with my clit. 

14.

I bet your lips would feel amazing against my tits. 

15.

I’m so turned on right now. 

16.

I want to pin your arms down while I fuck you. 

17.

Picture me on my knees, staring up at you with your cock between my lips.

18.

I’m touching myself, but I’m imagining you. 

19.

I want to feel your cock hard against my ass.

20.

I’m going to make you moan so loud you’ll have to bite down on a pillow to keep quiet. 

21.

I masturbated to your pictures last night. 

22.

You would look sexy as fuck underneath me. 

23.

I really wish we were having sex right now.

24.

I keep fantasizing about you going down on me. 

25.

I want you inside of me. 

26.

I’m going to sleep naked tonight.

27.

Want some pictures of me? 

28.

As soon as I see you, I’m going to press my lips against your neck. 

29.

Tell me how hard you are.  

30.

I’m going to dig my nails so deep into your back that you bleed. 

31.

I feel like doing it doggy style tonight. 

32.

Do you want me to wear my lace lingerie or my leather? 

33.

I want to be the one to make you cum. 

34.

I hope you’re picturing me naked right now. 

35.

I don’t know how I’ve been able to hold back from ripping your clothes off.

36.

I want to hear you moan my name. 

37.

I can’t wait for you to touch me. Everywhere. 

38.

Do you have any idea how sexy your eyes are? 

39.

FYI: I’m not wearing a bra.

40.

I don’t know how much longer I can wait to fuck you.

41.

I want to feel you orgasm inside of me.

42.

Tie me to your bed and do whatever the hell you want to me. 

43.

Every time you touch me, I get wet. 

44.

I keep thinking about you completely naked. 

45.

You would love the underwear I have on. It’s crotchless. 

46.

I’m going to make you cum so hard the next time I get you in bed. 

47.

You are the biggest turn on.

48.

I want you on top of me.

49.

I bet your cum would taste delicious. 

50.

I want to feel your hands in my hair. I want to feel your breath against my chest. I want to feel your dick between my legs. I want to feel you slide inside of me and scream my name. 

1. I won’t stop until you cum.

2. Is it okay if I just pleasure you tonight? I don’t need anything in return.

3. If you haven’t orgasmed today, I can help with that.

4. I’m not letting you do anything to me until I can feel that you’re wet first.

5. The way you orgasm makes me want to make it happen more often.

6. What part of your body do you want my mouth to touch first?

7. Unless you cum quickly, I plan on taking my time.

8. I’m not going to sleep until you orgasm.

9. I’m into foreplay.

10. I’m really good at foreplay.

11. I really shouldn’t have changed my sheets because I’m going to make you cum all over them.

12. I really wish I could hear you moan right now.

13. If you’re not alone, then leave the room now because after I tell you what I want to do to you, you’re going to need to touch yourself.

14. I wish I could see you orgasming right now.

15. Your body makes me crazy horny.

16. I really just want your lips on mine.

17. I had fun in bed with you last night. Think we can we do that again soon?

18. Even your smile turns me on.

19. I can still taste you, and I love it.

20. Don’t wear panties tonight. You won’t be needing them.

21. Your ass always looks great, but tonight it looked phenomenal.

22. Do you understand how sexy you are? Because if not I can try explaining.

23. I want you to cum in my sheets.

24. I’m so glad you’re a freak in bed.

25. How is it possible that you’re that gorgeous and that kinky.

26. I want you to touch yourself while reading this.

27. If you have clothes on right now, take them off because you’re going to want to touch yourself after reading this text.

28. Pretty much everything about you turns me on.

29. (When you tell her you’re eating something) I’d rather be eating your pussy right now.

30. You could be wearing a trash bag and I’d still want to fuck you.

31. Obviously I want to kiss you, but I really want to kiss you all over.

32. I’d ask you out to dinner tonight, but I don’t think I’ll be able to keep my hands off of you. Dinner at home instead?

33. I’m curious as to what color panties you have on, but I really don’t care because they’re coming off as soon as I come over anyway.

34. I’m so hard for you right now.

35. I love eating you out.

36. I’m going to need way longer than one hour to fuck you.

37. I’m sitting in traffic, and all I can think about is how I’m going to make you cum tonight.

38. Is it bad that I can’t stop picturing you naked in my bed?

39. I can’t even keep track of how many times I thought about you today. Some of the times you were naked…Ok most times you were naked.

40. I like it when you boss me around like that.

41. Your laugh is so sexy.

42. Do you purposely try to turn me on or are you just naturally that sexy?

43. Tell me your favorite position so I know exactly how you like it.

44. There’s nothing more I’d rather do than get you off right now.

45. If I were with you right now I’d take off your clothes and carry you to my bed.

46. I want to fuck you in every room of my apartment, including the kitchen.

47. I don’t know what you do that makes me want to fuck you so bad, but I like it.

48. There’s something really sexy about the way you look when you’re orgasming.

49. What’s a position you’ve always wanted to try but never have? Let’s do that tonight.

50. Let’s do reverse cowgirl tonight, I want to see your perfect ass riding me.

You don’t have to send your boyfriend nudes to get him in the mood. All it takes is a text worded in just the right way.

Warning: Only send these texts if you’re ready for clothing to come off.

This is not me saying that I stopped drinking for a week and even when I’m sober I still think about you late at night. This is not me saying that when I was wandering around Brooklyn after midnight, I wondered what it would be like to bring you to New York. This is not me wondering what it would be like to wear your sweatshirts at night, to be under your blankets at night, to be next to you at night.

This is not me thinking about you even a little bit. Or at all.

This is not me filling up the tub and dunking myself in it over and over and over and once more for good measure. There’s nothing to cleanse, nothing to rid myself of, nothing to wash away. Because this is not me thinking about you and that voice and those eyes and that way and thinking about what it would be like to put things back together that were once long lost.

This is not me trying to distract myself or trying to fantasize about what we could be or were or are or whatever that even means. This is not me trying to come up with reason after reason to not talk to you. This isn’t your name slipping easily off the tongue or naturally into conversation. This is not me letting you “cross my mind” or “bringing you up” or anything of the sort.

Because again. This is not me thinking about you even a little bit. Or at all.

Just so we’re clear, this is not a sext. This not me trying to get your attention. There’s nothing to this—just so we’re on the same page. This is not residual loneliness or the two bottles of wine in my system making themselves known and shouting when I’d normally say nothing.

That’s what this is. Nothing.

Because that’s what we are. Nothing.

So this is not me saying that sometimes I talk about you. To other people. And that saying your name out loud reminds me of things like summer and sweetness and possibility. This isn’t me wondering what you’re doing and when I’ll see you next and what this whole, “picking up where we left off” thing really means.

And it’s not me looking for hidden meanings or “just saying hi” or saying anything at all.

This is not a sext. This isn’t me wanting to ask what you want to do to me and listing out the 2, 3, 4, 6, 8, 12, 15 different things I want to do with just you. This isn’t me saying that I can’t sleep and I want to be not sleeping with you. This isn’t me hoping you can pick up on the “I want yous” hidden between things like, “hi” and “what are you doing” and “you good?”

This is not a sext.

This is not a sext.

This is not a thing.

This is not anything.

Unless you want it to be.

In which case, let’s pretend it’s not nothing. Pretend I never said anything. Pretend I can be something.

Pretend there’s something here.

In a world where society tells us that we as women have to feel guilty for having or wanting sex, we need to start initiating the sex we want to have. We have the pleasure of existing in a world where hooking up can occur rather quickly through the simple use of your phone so why not use it to our advantage.

It’s time we start to give ourselves what we want and need.

There is simply nothing wrong with two consenting adults in hooking up safely. Sometimes, you might not want to be in a relationship and only want to hook up with someone and that is absolutely okay.

I know hooking up or asking a guy to hook up can seem daunting and debilitating. The idea of being rejected seems slightly embarrassing and rather scary.

Please remember that being rejected by a text is not as bad as being rejected in person. Honestly, I would rather put myself out there in the world than let a man dictate when I am going to have sex.

The cards are in your hands, ladies!

Put yourself out there and send that risky text.

I find that one should simply follow the development of the relationship that is at hand. If it’s been casual then keep it casual. You can keep your texting short and sweet and simple with a to-the-point hookup text. If you have a friendly dynamic where hookups are simple than a to-the-point text will certainly do.

If you two are new to hooking up, I’d suggest a text which is more flirtatious than simply, leaving it up to him to either flirt back or reject you. Trust me, I have had my fair share of hookup texts that have been rejected and it isn’t that bad.

Sometimes rejection happens and you get ghosted; sometimes it leads to months of mind-blowing sex.

That is the beauty of a hookup relationship, it can be as easy as the two parties want it to be.

I also find it interesting if one uses some sort of personalized experience that the two of you shared the last time you were together to talk about hooking up over text again. If you want someone to join you to watch a movie or to help you put together a piece of furniture, allow a simple text to do the work for you with a little flirtation in the messages. Sure you might need some help with the actual furniture, but it’s all about how you send the messages. Thankfully, emojis can sometimes do more of the talking for you as well.

Throughout my time of being single, I have found that one needs to use whatever route feels most comfortable when initiating said hookup.

A hookup needs to be casual, consensual and most of all-fun for both parties.

If at any time something doesn’t feel right, speak up and let your partner know. Even if after the fact you feel like something wasn’t right, feel free to tell that person that what they did didn’t or did feel good. Alternatively, if someone did something well during a hookup, positive encouragement is always helpful and always appreciated and can always be useful in sending that next risky hookup text.

Aries

[2:00 am] heyyyyyyyyyy

Taurus

You’re right.

Gemini

I dig all of your personalities.

Cancer

We can cuddle after.

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Leo

i’ll ghost you and then watch your instagram story until we both eventually die.

Virgo

You can organize my finances in an excel spreadsheet. Yes, I would love for it to be color-coded.

Libra

everything sucks.

Scorpio

Scorpios don’t sext, they get sexted.

Sagittarius

wanna get drunk on wine coolers and insult each other?

Capricorn

i’ll let you make my 5-year plan.

Aquarius

you can be my therapist. ;)

Pisces

wanna talk about ur feelings?

Maybe if all you guys out there weren’t huffing cock snot and got your head out of your asses and didn’t treat girls horribly we wouldn’t be bitches.

You know how you guys think it’s cute to randomly send us dick pics? Well guess what? IT IS NOT! If a girl wants you to send her a dick pic she will ask for it. Sending us random dick pictures isn’t turning us women on at all! In fact, it just pisses us off by how stupid you can actually be!

Oh and don’t get me started on all the dumb pick up lines you guys try to use on us. Some of us don’t want any of your dick pics or pick up lines, we just want a guy who can start a conversation without asking us if we want to see his huge thick dick or would it be cool if I stuck a dildo up your ass and then jerked off to you? Like no!! We want a guy who can be normal during the first hour of the conversation that we have with you. Plus when we tell you to fuck off after you just got done asking us if we could fuck when we don’t even know you, it does not make us a bitch! It means we are not whores and we are sick of getting dumbasses like you sliding into our dms.

Also we don’t always want a guy who wants to have sex within the first 5 minutes of talking, even though we already know that’s what you want. That’s not always what we want. It’s not really hard not to be a creep! When all you guys do is send girls pick up lines and dick pictures right away you are known as a weirdo or a creep to us!

Just be normal, that’s all we are asking!!!

1. Do not expect her to give a lengthy paragraph when you keep replying with one-word answers. Mhm, then what, and winking faces are going to kill the conversation. You also have to play a part. You have to contribute as much as she does.

2. If you two are in the middle of sexting, she wants to hear about how attractive you find her. She wants to know you’ve been daydreaming about her naked body. You don’t have to hold yourself back. Hearing about how turned on you are will turn her on.

3. Just because you’re sexting, it doesn’t mean every sentence has to be filled with expletives. You can be dirty — but you can also toss in cute compliments about her eyes. You don’t have to stick to drooling over her chest and ass.

4. Sometimes, the little kinks she brings up while sexting are hints. She is testing the waters to see how you feel about certain sex acts. It’s her sneaky way of bringing up a topic (like bondage or anal) in the hopes you will initiate it in real life.

5. Of course, sometimes, it goes the other way. She might sext you about a certain scenario because she knows it will turn you on to fantasize about it, even though she would never agree to it in real life.

6. Even though you’re probably not thinking straight while sexting her, reread your messages before sending. Typos are a turn-off. You should also make sure you avoid using shorthand. Type out your words. You’re an adult with an education. Act like it.

7. What turns you on is probably not the same as what turns her on. Even though your first instinct might be to mention how badly you want to slip inside her, you might want to start by mentioning how you want to rub her clit and kiss her neck. Just like actual sex, sexting is not supposed to be centered around your pleasure. It’s supposed to be about the both of you.

8. She doesn’t want you to always save sexting for when you are home alone and ready to masturbate. She wants you to use it as a form of foreplay on the days you are planning on seeing her. Send her risky texts throughout the morning to put her in the mood. You can even send them in the evening when you are sitting on opposite ends of a restaurant table.

9. Do not ask her for nudes. She already knows you want to see her naked. If she wants to send photos, she will send them on her own. Don’t make her uncomfortable by begging. Getting pushy will only push her away.

10. Even though you are sexting, it does not mean she is sitting at home, touching herself. She might be snacking on chips, watching her favorite show with a group of friends. Just because she tells you she is wearing a towel and lounging in her empty bedroom does not mean it’s actually the case. 

You are up and scrolling through your newsfeed. You can’t go to sleep because all you are thinking about is how bad you want him inside you.

He could be your boyfriend, friend with benefits or just someone you want to spend the night with. Some simple sexts can trigger his mind and will make him crave you like crazy. By using the right words, you can spice up his dirty imagination and make him want you NOW.

Use some of these sexts to make him become restless just thinking about you. I guarantee that he will be crawling out of his bed to come to yours.

Make him come to you (pun intended) by simply using your fingertips.

1. I am lying naked in my bed thinking about you while I play with myself.

2. I just woke up and had a naughty dream, it felt so real I could almost feel you. You should come over so we can make my dream a reality.

3. I am finding it so difficult to sleep. My mind is just on the really crazy things I would do to you if you were here.

4. If you were here right now, we would definitely not get any sleep at all.

5. I just had the dirtiest thought about you. Too dirty to text—come on over and I can just show you.

6. Tonight, you’re cordially invited to be a special guest in between my legs.

7. I’ve got a very special hug waiting for you… it doesn’t involve my arms, or my hands…I wanna give your penis a tight hug with my vagina.

8. There’s something very wet and slippery downstairs, would you mind coming over to take a look at it?

9. I have my hand down my underwear right now, and just the thought of you touching me has me so wet.

10. Guess what I am thinking right now? Here’s a hint: It involves my mouth and you naked!

11. Remember the last time you came in my mouth? Me neither. Let’s make it happen tonight.

12. I want you so badly… Can you cum over right away?

13. I wish you could sleep with me tonight to keep me warm because I have nothing on.

14. I wanna go on a wild ride, you don’t even have to go far. Just come over and I can ride you all night long.

15. I couldn’t make it to the gym today, come over so you can help me get a late night cardio session in!

16. I am reading a magazine and it has some exciting naughty positions. If you were here we could do them all tonight.

17. I’m dying to find out if you are as good in real life as you are in my fantasies.

18. I just bought new lingerie, if you come over I can model it for you.

19.  I am currently reading an erotica book, let’s act out its scenes tonight.

20. Congrats! You have won a coupon for doing ANYTHING with me. It expires tonight though.

21. You. Me. Naked. My bed. Tonight.

22. Can’t sleep because every time I close my eyes, I see you naked. Wish you were here tonight so I could see you naked with my eyes open.

23. I’m up just thinking how I can’t wait to run my hands all over your strong body.

24. What are you wearing right now? (Wait for his response.) Oh! Your clothes would look so much better on the floor next to mine.

25. You should come over and we can pretend we are auditioning for a porn.

26. I’m all alone in bed tonight and I feel like something is missing… It’s you in between my legs.

27. I am imagining your hands on my body… your mouth on my body… and finally, your rock hard cock inside.

28. I have a few dirty games in mind but I need another player, can you come over and play with me?

29. I’m so wet touching myself, wishing I had your hand down there instead of mine.

30. I wanna blow your mind by simply using my mouth.

I hope some of these sexts can help you score and get him in your bed. Don’t be afraid to click the send button. Be spontaneous, experiment, and enjoy.

Happy sexting!